Washington Irving said; "Great minds have purposes; others have wishes."
Each of us have tremendous potential residing within us. Some find the potential and nurture it, others find it but let it go, others never find it and still others never even look for it.
But regardless of who we are, what our circumstances are or the life we have lived, the potential is there for us all. I believe the underlying difference in the manifestation of huge successes and the lack of success, is that some people attach purpose to their potential and create amazing results while others live life haphazardly, never finding a purpose for their intentions.
When you live life with a purpose, you are adding rocket fuel to every goal, every intention and and every desire you can imagine. Your life becomes focused and on track. Your thoughts, your actions, beliefs, decisions all reflect the purpose you have attached to your life.
But some people never establish their purpose. They can not "find" anything to get them hugely excited and something to give them the motivation to succeed.
Too often, I am reminded how hard it is for some people to find their purpose. They believe it should be something grand and world serving. But a true purpose is something designed to simply leave the world in a better place than it would have been without you.
For example, I will share my true purpose with you
"To demonstrate to everyone I encounter the Best Possible Version of Me". Now that may seem very convoluted and vague, but I feel it is very powerful. There was a time when I wanted to save the world and help thousands of people to change their lives. This is still a very important goal of mine. But by demonstrating the Best Possible Version of Me to the World, to everyone I encounter, I am being a leader who can make a difference.
It puts ME in a position to lead by example. How can I possibly help people if I can not demonstrate the possibilities in and through my own example?
Purpose simply puts your train of life on a solid track. It gives you something to work toward, something you will accomplish through who you are and who you are being. It is not necessary to have a grand and elaborate purpose, especially if you can not see yourself actually in the vision of the purpose itself.
So seek a purpose for yourself that YOU can grow with. Something in life to drive you and motivate you, something you can very excited about. Once you can bring purpose into your everyday life, your goals, your actions and decisions, your life will suddenly change.
The rocket fuel of purpose can take you anywhere you choose to go in life.
To your unstoppable success...
WE HAVE MOVED!!!
12/25/2009
Are Your Thoughts Holding You Back?
It is a known belief in the Personal Development arena the words we speak can affect our results exponentially. With this in mind, we knowingly make a concerted effort to speak words of success and abundance in order to attract these things into our lives.
But, here is another consideration for you and one which has the potential to dramatically effect your results immediately. We all have those little instantaneous thoughts which can make us feel less than successful or empowered. Sometimes, those little thoughts can actually create destructive results for us, simply from the words of destruction we conjure up in our minds, or maybe the lack of commitment to ourselves and our goals.
Those little instantaneous thoughts should be considered as words of destruction. This is an overwhelming concept, so please stay with me on this. I promise you will find it extremely powerful.
Thoughts and words all come from emotion, but there are times when emotion controls not only our words but our thoughts and bring about some very negative results for us. When you are confronted with anything in your life you do not agree with, something resulting in a feeling of frustration or anger, or anything which might make you feel less than the person you choose to be, you are in danger of bringing negative results into your life. Those little fleeting thoughts of doubt, worry, concern or aggravation are controlled by negative emotion. And, negative emotion is more damaging to you than any words you knowingly speak.
Stop and think about it for a moment. Have you ever played out a scenario of how you are going to handle a situation in your mind? Have you ever imagined "getting even" with someone who has hurt you, or have you ever daydreamed of revenge? These things do not just go away. They take up residency in your mind. In contrast, the words you speak are often said only once or twice, while the revengeful, negative and powerful thoughts we attach to scenarios hang on for an extended time.
Thoughts are emotions and emotions are what determine your energy and your vibration. If your thoughts are consumed with negative energy, then what you are "putting out" to the world is negative energy and therefore your results will be negative.
Any level of negative emotion will only hurt you and your results. This emotion will frequently consume us for days and holding on to it will alter your outcome and your results dramatically. In order to manifest positive results into your life, you must eliminate the negative emotion.
You must let go of and eliminate any negative energy you are giving out to the world. Just let it go. When negative emotions start to show their ugly heads, just eliminate them immediately with positive emotion. Yes, it can be done and when practiced becomes quite easy. Make a point to attract only the things you want into your life. Make all of your thoughts intentional. When your thoughts are controlled, then the words are controlled and the end result is the accomplishment of some major positive results in your life.
To your unstoppable success...
But, here is another consideration for you and one which has the potential to dramatically effect your results immediately. We all have those little instantaneous thoughts which can make us feel less than successful or empowered. Sometimes, those little thoughts can actually create destructive results for us, simply from the words of destruction we conjure up in our minds, or maybe the lack of commitment to ourselves and our goals.
Those little instantaneous thoughts should be considered as words of destruction. This is an overwhelming concept, so please stay with me on this. I promise you will find it extremely powerful.
Thoughts and words all come from emotion, but there are times when emotion controls not only our words but our thoughts and bring about some very negative results for us. When you are confronted with anything in your life you do not agree with, something resulting in a feeling of frustration or anger, or anything which might make you feel less than the person you choose to be, you are in danger of bringing negative results into your life. Those little fleeting thoughts of doubt, worry, concern or aggravation are controlled by negative emotion. And, negative emotion is more damaging to you than any words you knowingly speak.
Stop and think about it for a moment. Have you ever played out a scenario of how you are going to handle a situation in your mind? Have you ever imagined "getting even" with someone who has hurt you, or have you ever daydreamed of revenge? These things do not just go away. They take up residency in your mind. In contrast, the words you speak are often said only once or twice, while the revengeful, negative and powerful thoughts we attach to scenarios hang on for an extended time.
Thoughts are emotions and emotions are what determine your energy and your vibration. If your thoughts are consumed with negative energy, then what you are "putting out" to the world is negative energy and therefore your results will be negative.
Any level of negative emotion will only hurt you and your results. This emotion will frequently consume us for days and holding on to it will alter your outcome and your results dramatically. In order to manifest positive results into your life, you must eliminate the negative emotion.
You must let go of and eliminate any negative energy you are giving out to the world. Just let it go. When negative emotions start to show their ugly heads, just eliminate them immediately with positive emotion. Yes, it can be done and when practiced becomes quite easy. Make a point to attract only the things you want into your life. Make all of your thoughts intentional. When your thoughts are controlled, then the words are controlled and the end result is the accomplishment of some major positive results in your life.
To your unstoppable success...
Step Forward In Faith to Claim Yourself
So much of our society lives in a non-empowering state of mind. We accept failure as the normal, in fact, expect failure in most of what we do. We have learned from the multitudes how only a select few are lucky enough to "Have It All".
There was a time when I was one of the multitudes. I believed my success depended on the actions of others and the luck of the draw. But early in my adult life I found this to be a myth. Very early in my career in the Airline Industry, I found I could get the promotions and the special projects simply by stepping up to the plate, taking action and voicing my own self belief. This belief and change in my behaviors allowed me to travel the world and make my mark in the industry.
Great successes in life never just happen. They are always a result of action. But too often, fear and doubt keep us from taking massive action for our own successes. It takes tremendous intestinal fortitude to step out of your box and claim your life. Fear (false evidence appearing real) can totally control your life only if you choose to let it.
Fear is the exact opposite of faith but yet they are the same thing. Both are believing in something you can not see. Personally, I choose faith in making my choices and it has proven to be an exceptional direction in my life. Faith is hope, expectation, empowerment and courage.
You must choose faith over fear if you choose to create the life of your dreams. People who criticize or frown on postitive action are not the people you want in your life anyway. You are the people you associate with, so choose not to associate with anyone who does not support your dreams and your actions.
If you want something powerful in your life, you must surround yourself with the people who are getting the same results. Wouldn't it be much better to look forward knowing, expecting life to give you exactly what you want, instead of fearing failure?
We all deserve to have exactly what our hearts desire most. The only way to have those things is to not worry about what other people think, be responsible for yourself and take action to make fabulous things happen in your life.
On this special day, Christmas Day 2009, I am very moved to give my readers something empowering. Something of myself to hopefully give you a push to make your life not just ordinary, but extraordinary.
The best thing I can give you is hope. Life can be fun, facinating, spontaneous, joyful and fulfilling but YOU have to want it and YOU have to be willing to have it. It always amazes me when someone tells me exactly what they want but are not willing to have it. When you focus on your goals, give them attention, faith and expectation, coupling that with a "no fear" attitude, ANYTHING is possible.
Step out of your world, your box of less than extraordinary and get what you want most in life. We all deserve to live extraordinarily. It can be yours, but YOU must not fear, you MUST believe and you MUST take action.
To your unstoppable success...
There was a time when I was one of the multitudes. I believed my success depended on the actions of others and the luck of the draw. But early in my adult life I found this to be a myth. Very early in my career in the Airline Industry, I found I could get the promotions and the special projects simply by stepping up to the plate, taking action and voicing my own self belief. This belief and change in my behaviors allowed me to travel the world and make my mark in the industry.
Great successes in life never just happen. They are always a result of action. But too often, fear and doubt keep us from taking massive action for our own successes. It takes tremendous intestinal fortitude to step out of your box and claim your life. Fear (false evidence appearing real) can totally control your life only if you choose to let it.
Fear is the exact opposite of faith but yet they are the same thing. Both are believing in something you can not see. Personally, I choose faith in making my choices and it has proven to be an exceptional direction in my life. Faith is hope, expectation, empowerment and courage.
You must choose faith over fear if you choose to create the life of your dreams. People who criticize or frown on postitive action are not the people you want in your life anyway. You are the people you associate with, so choose not to associate with anyone who does not support your dreams and your actions.
If you want something powerful in your life, you must surround yourself with the people who are getting the same results. Wouldn't it be much better to look forward knowing, expecting life to give you exactly what you want, instead of fearing failure?
We all deserve to have exactly what our hearts desire most. The only way to have those things is to not worry about what other people think, be responsible for yourself and take action to make fabulous things happen in your life.
On this special day, Christmas Day 2009, I am very moved to give my readers something empowering. Something of myself to hopefully give you a push to make your life not just ordinary, but extraordinary.
The best thing I can give you is hope. Life can be fun, facinating, spontaneous, joyful and fulfilling but YOU have to want it and YOU have to be willing to have it. It always amazes me when someone tells me exactly what they want but are not willing to have it. When you focus on your goals, give them attention, faith and expectation, coupling that with a "no fear" attitude, ANYTHING is possible.
Step out of your world, your box of less than extraordinary and get what you want most in life. We all deserve to live extraordinarily. It can be yours, but YOU must not fear, you MUST believe and you MUST take action.
To your unstoppable success...
12/24/2009
Tap Into Your Own Unlimited Potential
Every human is born with unlimited potential. It is a God given gift we each possess. Our accomplishments, integrity, level of success, relationships, how we live, the depth of our love and the things we have in life are not limited in any possible way by our circumstances.
Each person is born with the same possibilities as every other person and those possibilities are unlimited. Understand however the circumstances we are born into may be different, but the Unlimited Potential and Possibilities in our lives is the same.
Some people are born into circumstances which present a greater challenge to overcome, but the potential remains the same for everyone. God built into each of us the ability to create the life we desire and dream of. Along with Unlimited Possibilities is Unlimited Ability in our thought and mental growth.
For example, let's look at Thomas Edison. He did not just wave a wand and invent electricity. The ability to create electricity was in every person of that era, but Thomas Edison thought about what this new invention would be. He envisioned it, nurtured the vision and made a very concious decision to find the components to develop it. He drew upon his unlimited potential and did not give up on it. If you study Mr. Edison, you will learn how he tried hundreds of ideas before he succeeded.
The idea of electricity never changed during the process. His vision never changed, only his methods. He didn’t just accidentally fly a kite and find electricity. He knew exactly what he was looking for because he saw it in his mind, long before he made the discovery. He focused on the idea and gave it tremendous attention.
This same ability exists in each of us. Every invention, finding, discovery and piece of art begins with a thought. Humans are given the ability to think. It is then what you do with that ability that makes you different from those around you.
Some people choose to use their thought to create and others choose to use it to hold them back. Again, there is no distinction, other than the decision to use the thought either in a positive or a negative manner. Positive thinking, or as I call it, Creative Thinking (using your creative plane) is just as powerful as negative or destructive thinking.
Every one of us is exactly what we choose to be, based on our own thinking. I do not, however, agree with the old cliché of "You are what you think you are". Instead, I choose a newer version, "What you think - You Are".
So what does all of this have to do with potential? Your potential is only limited by your level of thinking. If you genuinely see yourself as a successful artist, creator, entrepreneur, parent or any other vision you may have, then that is exactly what you are and your life will reflect exactly who you know you are inside. But, on the other side, if you see yourself as a misfit, a nobody, unsuccessful, a failure or just not the person you want to be, then this is exactly what your life will reflect.
I wish I could say that potential is based entirely on what you think about, but there is another powerful consideration. And, that is belief. Covering up a lack of belief with positive thinking will only tend to cloud your results in life. You can not mask a deep rooted fear and negative thought process with a few positive thoughts. It takes consistent action to change your belief process.
You must implement a solid personal development program to accomplish this level of change in your belief system. You must learn to direct your thoughts into the right area and have total control over your thoughts to see this level of success. With consistent and daily attention to what your thinking, your words and how you respond to circumstances, you can start to see small steps of accomplishment.
Start today by filling your mind, your eyes and your ears with sound, uplifting and positive thoughts and images. Be very aware of what you put into your mind. If you watch trash, then your mind will focus on trash. If you associate with negative, draining people, then your results will be the same as their results.
Take a look at your 5 closest friends. If they are not the type of people you want to transform yourself into, then I strongly suggest finding new friends. You truly are the company you keep, simply because their influence determines what you put into your mind. Once you make some small changes in what you see, hear, speak and think, you will begin to see the unlimited potential in yourself and you will see immediate change in your circumstances.
What you think about and give energy to, comes about.
To your unstoppable success...
Each person is born with the same possibilities as every other person and those possibilities are unlimited. Understand however the circumstances we are born into may be different, but the Unlimited Potential and Possibilities in our lives is the same.
Some people are born into circumstances which present a greater challenge to overcome, but the potential remains the same for everyone. God built into each of us the ability to create the life we desire and dream of. Along with Unlimited Possibilities is Unlimited Ability in our thought and mental growth.
For example, let's look at Thomas Edison. He did not just wave a wand and invent electricity. The ability to create electricity was in every person of that era, but Thomas Edison thought about what this new invention would be. He envisioned it, nurtured the vision and made a very concious decision to find the components to develop it. He drew upon his unlimited potential and did not give up on it. If you study Mr. Edison, you will learn how he tried hundreds of ideas before he succeeded.
The idea of electricity never changed during the process. His vision never changed, only his methods. He didn’t just accidentally fly a kite and find electricity. He knew exactly what he was looking for because he saw it in his mind, long before he made the discovery. He focused on the idea and gave it tremendous attention.
This same ability exists in each of us. Every invention, finding, discovery and piece of art begins with a thought. Humans are given the ability to think. It is then what you do with that ability that makes you different from those around you.
Some people choose to use their thought to create and others choose to use it to hold them back. Again, there is no distinction, other than the decision to use the thought either in a positive or a negative manner. Positive thinking, or as I call it, Creative Thinking (using your creative plane) is just as powerful as negative or destructive thinking.
Every one of us is exactly what we choose to be, based on our own thinking. I do not, however, agree with the old cliché of "You are what you think you are". Instead, I choose a newer version, "What you think - You Are".
So what does all of this have to do with potential? Your potential is only limited by your level of thinking. If you genuinely see yourself as a successful artist, creator, entrepreneur, parent or any other vision you may have, then that is exactly what you are and your life will reflect exactly who you know you are inside. But, on the other side, if you see yourself as a misfit, a nobody, unsuccessful, a failure or just not the person you want to be, then this is exactly what your life will reflect.
I wish I could say that potential is based entirely on what you think about, but there is another powerful consideration. And, that is belief. Covering up a lack of belief with positive thinking will only tend to cloud your results in life. You can not mask a deep rooted fear and negative thought process with a few positive thoughts. It takes consistent action to change your belief process.
You must implement a solid personal development program to accomplish this level of change in your belief system. You must learn to direct your thoughts into the right area and have total control over your thoughts to see this level of success. With consistent and daily attention to what your thinking, your words and how you respond to circumstances, you can start to see small steps of accomplishment.
Start today by filling your mind, your eyes and your ears with sound, uplifting and positive thoughts and images. Be very aware of what you put into your mind. If you watch trash, then your mind will focus on trash. If you associate with negative, draining people, then your results will be the same as their results.
Take a look at your 5 closest friends. If they are not the type of people you want to transform yourself into, then I strongly suggest finding new friends. You truly are the company you keep, simply because their influence determines what you put into your mind. Once you make some small changes in what you see, hear, speak and think, you will begin to see the unlimited potential in yourself and you will see immediate change in your circumstances.
What you think about and give energy to, comes about.
To your unstoppable success...
12/19/2009
Just Dance - The Essence Within Which Drives Our Passions
Life is meant to be lived! Not just experienced, but to be lived with passion, enthusiasm, determination, and commitment. The human race was never intended to just get by, to struggle and fight non-stop battles. We were created in God's image for a reason, not by circumstance. Each of us has been given a passion, a desire of our heart which is the essence of who we were intended to be. We are expected to nurture this passion and create for ourselves the life intended for us to live.
This essence within us is our soul. It is the true self we hear so many people are looking for. It is where the passion to create an extraordinary life resides. It is where the motivation for "out of the box" thinking comes from. Our true essence is our true self. And, this true self is not hard to find. It takes a little soul searching, a little digging and yes, even a little fire and drive from within to find ourselves and learn who we were truly intended to be.
There are people, such as artists who find this essence early in life and are able to nurture it and sculpt from it an intensity for a greater creative plane of existence. Others, such as myself, must find the essence through the absolute determination to experience and live on a greater plane, to live a life of extreme passion, excitement and accomplishment.
This may sound difficult, it may seem the essence is something you have to search for to find, but I have great news for us all. The essence within us has a switch. A simple button which can be turned on at any given time. A switch which will open the door to greater thinking, greater creativity, greater fun, greater joy and a quality of life we have all dreamed about experiencing.
But, WE must turn the switch. WE must identify the location of the button and turn it on in order to experience the essence of life.
So where is the switch? It lies within our hearts. Everyone has something, an activity which gets us more excited than anything else and gives us the energy to experience life at a greater level. For some it may be physical activities, others may be mental or emotional activities, others may be family ativities, but we all have the switch. I will even step out on the limb here and tell you that for some of the greatest artists, writers and business men in history, this essence was sexual activities.
One of my personal motivators is Dancing. Dancing brings out a person within without inhibitions and fear. A person who can do and accomplish anything. A person of passion, power and a zest for life. When I dance, when I release the essence within me, I find a person who loves life and with a thirst to experience everything life has to offer. With dancing, the creative juices flow. Things fall into place that once were confusing and out of sorts. Life has a greater ease. I exist on a higher plane than before.The essence of me was hidden behind my love of dance. Dancing releases my true self into the world.
But dancing is not the motivator for everyone. Each of us must find our own essence and it is our responsibility to find that essence and release it. Just take a little time to find the "thing" in life which has been set aside for a very long time. The thing you always wanted to do. Chances are good you will find your essence and once you do.... RELEASE IT. Indulge in it and allow yourself to find the ectasy of true self.
Your life will change dramatically and believe it or not, you Deserve to have the change you desire.
To your unstoppable success...
This essence within us is our soul. It is the true self we hear so many people are looking for. It is where the passion to create an extraordinary life resides. It is where the motivation for "out of the box" thinking comes from. Our true essence is our true self. And, this true self is not hard to find. It takes a little soul searching, a little digging and yes, even a little fire and drive from within to find ourselves and learn who we were truly intended to be.
There are people, such as artists who find this essence early in life and are able to nurture it and sculpt from it an intensity for a greater creative plane of existence. Others, such as myself, must find the essence through the absolute determination to experience and live on a greater plane, to live a life of extreme passion, excitement and accomplishment.
This may sound difficult, it may seem the essence is something you have to search for to find, but I have great news for us all. The essence within us has a switch. A simple button which can be turned on at any given time. A switch which will open the door to greater thinking, greater creativity, greater fun, greater joy and a quality of life we have all dreamed about experiencing.
But, WE must turn the switch. WE must identify the location of the button and turn it on in order to experience the essence of life.
So where is the switch? It lies within our hearts. Everyone has something, an activity which gets us more excited than anything else and gives us the energy to experience life at a greater level. For some it may be physical activities, others may be mental or emotional activities, others may be family ativities, but we all have the switch. I will even step out on the limb here and tell you that for some of the greatest artists, writers and business men in history, this essence was sexual activities.
One of my personal motivators is Dancing. Dancing brings out a person within without inhibitions and fear. A person who can do and accomplish anything. A person of passion, power and a zest for life. When I dance, when I release the essence within me, I find a person who loves life and with a thirst to experience everything life has to offer. With dancing, the creative juices flow. Things fall into place that once were confusing and out of sorts. Life has a greater ease. I exist on a higher plane than before.The essence of me was hidden behind my love of dance. Dancing releases my true self into the world.
But dancing is not the motivator for everyone. Each of us must find our own essence and it is our responsibility to find that essence and release it. Just take a little time to find the "thing" in life which has been set aside for a very long time. The thing you always wanted to do. Chances are good you will find your essence and once you do.... RELEASE IT. Indulge in it and allow yourself to find the ectasy of true self.
Your life will change dramatically and believe it or not, you Deserve to have the change you desire.
To your unstoppable success...
12/17/2009
The Best Christmas Wish Ever!
I received a moving Christmas card today and wanted to share it's message with you.
Scatter Joy... Inspire Hope... Share Love... Seek Peace
Scatter Joy: If we have Joy in our hearts, then we can easily scatter it to the people we encounter every day. Joy comes from within, from the heart and will seep through our inner self and show itself in everything we do. Joy exists in us all, but sometimes we have to remind ourselves by looking at the people we love and the many things we are grateful for. Let's find the Joy already living in our hearts and Scatter it around for others to enjoy.
Inspire Hope: Through our own outlook for life and living do we Inspire Others to have their own Hope? In a time when so many people are finding life more and more difficult, we have more opportunity than ever before to inspire others to have Hope for their future, their families and even for their purpose. We should all recieve this as a challenge and step up to inspire others to have hope.
Share Love: We all have Love in our hearts. Let's tap into the love, let it multiply and grow so we can share it with everyone we meet. Love is an energy and will spread like wildfire simply by feeding it and allowing it to be seen by others.
Seek Peace: Peace of Heart, Peace of Mind and Peace of Self. It is all ours for the taking. We should Seek the peace within us and when we do, our lives will change exponentially. Peace of Heart, Mind and Self will open us for greater creativity, clarity of purpose and profound results in our lives. Peace replaces the stress and allows us to experience life at an entirely different and greater level.
This is a simple message, but one of great power, authority and empowerment. I hope in some small way, this message will empower you as it has me.
Merry Christmas to you all...
Scatter Joy... Inspire Hope... Share Love... Seek Peace
Scatter Joy: If we have Joy in our hearts, then we can easily scatter it to the people we encounter every day. Joy comes from within, from the heart and will seep through our inner self and show itself in everything we do. Joy exists in us all, but sometimes we have to remind ourselves by looking at the people we love and the many things we are grateful for. Let's find the Joy already living in our hearts and Scatter it around for others to enjoy.
Inspire Hope: Through our own outlook for life and living do we Inspire Others to have their own Hope? In a time when so many people are finding life more and more difficult, we have more opportunity than ever before to inspire others to have Hope for their future, their families and even for their purpose. We should all recieve this as a challenge and step up to inspire others to have hope.
Share Love: We all have Love in our hearts. Let's tap into the love, let it multiply and grow so we can share it with everyone we meet. Love is an energy and will spread like wildfire simply by feeding it and allowing it to be seen by others.
Seek Peace: Peace of Heart, Peace of Mind and Peace of Self. It is all ours for the taking. We should Seek the peace within us and when we do, our lives will change exponentially. Peace of Heart, Mind and Self will open us for greater creativity, clarity of purpose and profound results in our lives. Peace replaces the stress and allows us to experience life at an entirely different and greater level.
This is a simple message, but one of great power, authority and empowerment. I hope in some small way, this message will empower you as it has me.
Merry Christmas to you all...
12/15/2009
Are You Communicating in Business and Relationships?
If you were to ask me about the number one component missing in our society today both in business and in relationships, I would have say it is "communication". Communication is quickly becoming a lost art, obsolete and rarely something anyone is willing or capable of engaging in.
In business, I find those who understand the art of communication are the high performers, the people with the most sales or with the highest performing team. The great communicators possesss a position in their industry, a place of honor and recognition admired by others.
And what about relationships, from the intimacy of a couple to the raising of children and the ability to talk to anyone in any situation, communication would change this world and our experiences in relationships.
With our world of text messages, email and instant messages, we have lost what counts most. We are living in a world of Cliche's. Conversation has become more of "What's Up", "How you doing?" and my favorite.... "Whatever!". Our children do not know how to communicate to each other or to us and our Relationships suffer from the lack of real communication.
And here is a Newsflash for you... Talking is Not Communicating. Small talk is an art as well, but where some people use it none at all, others abuse it. Some people just jump right to the big issues, opinions and miss an opportunity to enjoy the intimacy of communication.
Intimacy is important in all relationships. Learning more about the people you encounter and sharing your deepest feelings and thoughts with the person you love most in your life. It is all intimacy and true intimacy can only spring from good communication.
Are you engaging the people you meet? Are you looking them in the eye when they speak to you, are you taking the opportunity to know who they are and what they think and feel? Are you shaking their hands with strength and confidence?
And ladies, let me tell you something very important, a handshake is NOT A "MAN THING". A hand shake should be an opportunity to share a bit of yourself with the person you meet. It is an opportunity for them to become curious about you, who you are and what you have to share with them. Communication begins with simple encounters such as handshakes. Do it with power and conviction.
Personally, when I meet someone, I extend my hand with authority and confidence. If they return (men or women), with a weak, partial hand or a namby pamby wrist shake, I have to work very hard to find substance in them. They have missed an opportunity to make a good first impression with me. Communication begins with the first moment of contact.
I challenge you to take a look at your skills in the area of communication. Evaluate for yourself why you may not be communicating with the people in your life. Lack of confidence, fear of saying the wrong thing or standing out in a crowd could be the culprit. Put yourself out there, you just might find it really does not hurt at all but on the other hand, will greatly improve your business, your personal life and your own self confidence.
Once you make an improvement in your communication skills, your life will change dramatically! You will be leaving the people in your life with a small piece of youself every day.
To your unstoppable success...
In business, I find those who understand the art of communication are the high performers, the people with the most sales or with the highest performing team. The great communicators possesss a position in their industry, a place of honor and recognition admired by others.
And what about relationships, from the intimacy of a couple to the raising of children and the ability to talk to anyone in any situation, communication would change this world and our experiences in relationships.
With our world of text messages, email and instant messages, we have lost what counts most. We are living in a world of Cliche's. Conversation has become more of "What's Up", "How you doing?" and my favorite.... "Whatever!". Our children do not know how to communicate to each other or to us and our Relationships suffer from the lack of real communication.
And here is a Newsflash for you... Talking is Not Communicating. Small talk is an art as well, but where some people use it none at all, others abuse it. Some people just jump right to the big issues, opinions and miss an opportunity to enjoy the intimacy of communication.
Intimacy is important in all relationships. Learning more about the people you encounter and sharing your deepest feelings and thoughts with the person you love most in your life. It is all intimacy and true intimacy can only spring from good communication.
Are you engaging the people you meet? Are you looking them in the eye when they speak to you, are you taking the opportunity to know who they are and what they think and feel? Are you shaking their hands with strength and confidence?
And ladies, let me tell you something very important, a handshake is NOT A "MAN THING". A hand shake should be an opportunity to share a bit of yourself with the person you meet. It is an opportunity for them to become curious about you, who you are and what you have to share with them. Communication begins with simple encounters such as handshakes. Do it with power and conviction.
Personally, when I meet someone, I extend my hand with authority and confidence. If they return (men or women), with a weak, partial hand or a namby pamby wrist shake, I have to work very hard to find substance in them. They have missed an opportunity to make a good first impression with me. Communication begins with the first moment of contact.
I challenge you to take a look at your skills in the area of communication. Evaluate for yourself why you may not be communicating with the people in your life. Lack of confidence, fear of saying the wrong thing or standing out in a crowd could be the culprit. Put yourself out there, you just might find it really does not hurt at all but on the other hand, will greatly improve your business, your personal life and your own self confidence.
Once you make an improvement in your communication skills, your life will change dramatically! You will be leaving the people in your life with a small piece of youself every day.
To your unstoppable success...
12/14/2009
Self-Revelation - Finding Your Passion
Life is Self-Revelation, it's all about revealing ourselves. Every day, we reveal who we are to everyone we encounter, and to the World. Everything we do, everything we say and even the things we think about and give energy and attention to are about who we are.
In reality, much of what we are revealing to the world though has little to do with our true self. The real person our inner self desires to be, the hidden person inside.
Too often, we go through our lives as robots. As pre-created beings who have little or no control over who we are, our circumstances or even our destiny. It is the person created by others. Our thoughts, our beliefs (even our belief in ourselves) are hand-me-downs from the relationships in our lives. From the feelings of our loving families and their desires for us, to the tirades of out of control people, even the fears others have imposed on us based on their own fears. From people we have known and the people of brief encounters. Our life we are living is seldom our own.
Self-revelation should be something personal, a focus on revealing to ourselves our deepest desires. It is about finding the person hidden within and the Revelation of real purpose and destiny. But how do we find out who we truly are, who we were intended to be? The answer is so simple, once we open our eyes to find the lost person within, instead of the person who has lived a life of compromise and struggle and eventually given into the dreams of others.
I would like to challenge each of you to take a deep inner look at who you are hiding within. For once, look at everything you encounter with new eyes with a new zest to grasp yourself and create your own destiny. But not in selfishness, however in creating a better version of you. A version who lives with passion, intrique and intimacy in every area of your life.
Take a very deep look within your heart, looking at your beliefs and the way you think, at your passions and your relationships. Take a look at your motivations and the stimuli in your life, what are they? Are you living through your own passions and are the stimuli leading you to your true destiny?
Remember, life is not a destination, it is a journey. Are you living your own journey, or that of others? Have you placed your life on hold while building the life others desire for you? Become intimate with your own beliefs, your own goals and desires. Once you have done this, you just may find the real self was not so deeply hidden, only temporarily placed on hold.
Life is too short to not live in passion. Once you find that passion, you will find yourself and the person you reveal every day to the World, will make a difference in the World.
To your unstoppable success....
In reality, much of what we are revealing to the world though has little to do with our true self. The real person our inner self desires to be, the hidden person inside.
Too often, we go through our lives as robots. As pre-created beings who have little or no control over who we are, our circumstances or even our destiny. It is the person created by others. Our thoughts, our beliefs (even our belief in ourselves) are hand-me-downs from the relationships in our lives. From the feelings of our loving families and their desires for us, to the tirades of out of control people, even the fears others have imposed on us based on their own fears. From people we have known and the people of brief encounters. Our life we are living is seldom our own.
Self-revelation should be something personal, a focus on revealing to ourselves our deepest desires. It is about finding the person hidden within and the Revelation of real purpose and destiny. But how do we find out who we truly are, who we were intended to be? The answer is so simple, once we open our eyes to find the lost person within, instead of the person who has lived a life of compromise and struggle and eventually given into the dreams of others.
I would like to challenge each of you to take a deep inner look at who you are hiding within. For once, look at everything you encounter with new eyes with a new zest to grasp yourself and create your own destiny. But not in selfishness, however in creating a better version of you. A version who lives with passion, intrique and intimacy in every area of your life.
Take a very deep look within your heart, looking at your beliefs and the way you think, at your passions and your relationships. Take a look at your motivations and the stimuli in your life, what are they? Are you living through your own passions and are the stimuli leading you to your true destiny?
Remember, life is not a destination, it is a journey. Are you living your own journey, or that of others? Have you placed your life on hold while building the life others desire for you? Become intimate with your own beliefs, your own goals and desires. Once you have done this, you just may find the real self was not so deeply hidden, only temporarily placed on hold.
Life is too short to not live in passion. Once you find that passion, you will find yourself and the person you reveal every day to the World, will make a difference in the World.
To your unstoppable success....
12/10/2009
Random Acts of Kindness - The Cab Ride
I wish I could give credit for this beautiful story. If any of my readers know the author, please share with me. Enjoy...
I arrived at the address and honked the horn. After waiting a few minutes, I walked to the door and knocked... 'Just a minute', answered a frail, elderly voice.
I could hear something being dragged across the floor. After a long pause, the door opened. A small woman in her 90's stood before me. She was wearing a print dress and a pillbox hat with a veil pinned on it, like somebody out of a 1940's movie. By her side was a small nylon suitcase.
The apartment looked as if no one had lived in it for years. All the furniture was covered with sheets. There were no clocks on the walls, no knickknacks or utensils on the counters. In the corner was a cardboard box filled with photos and glassware. 'Would you carry my bag out to the car?' she said.
I took the suitcase to the cab, then returned to assist the woman. She took my arm and we walked slowly toward the curb. She kept thanking me for my kindness. 'It's nothing', I told her.. 'I just try to treat my passengers the way I would want my mother treated'. 'Oh, you're such a good boy', she said.
When we got in the cab, she gave me an address and then asked, 'Could you drive through downtown?' 'It's not the shortest way,' I answered quickly.. 'Oh, I don't mind,' she said. 'I'm in no hurry. I'm on my way to a hospice'.
I looked in the rear-view mirror. Her eyes were glistening. 'I don't have any family left,' she continued in a soft voice.. 'The doctor says I don't have very long. ' I quietly reached over and shut off the meter. 'What route would you like me to take?' I asked.
For the next two hours, we drove through the city. She showed me the building where she had once worked as an elevator operator. We drove through the neighborhood where she and her husband had lived when they were newlyweds. She had me pull up in front of a furniture warehouse that had once been a ballroom where she had gone dancing as a girl.
Sometimes she'd ask me to slow in front of a particular building or corner and would sit staring into the darkness, saying nothing. As the first hint of sun was creasing the horizon, she suddenly said, 'I'm tired. Let's go now'.
We drove in silence to the address she had given me. It was a low building, like a small convalescent home, with a driveway that passed under a portico. Two orderlies came out to the cab as soon as we pulled up. They were solicitous and intent, watching her every move. They must have been expecting her. I opened the trunk and took the small suitcase to the door.
The woman was already seated in a wheelchair. 'How much do I owe you?' she asked, reaching into her purse. 'Nothing,' I said 'You have to make a living,' she answered. 'There are other passengers,' I responded. Almost without thinking, I bent and gave her a hug. She held onto me tightly. 'You gave an old woman a little moment of joy,' she said. 'Thank you.' I squeezed her hand, and then walked into the dim morning light.. Behind me, a door shut.
It was the sound of the closing of a life.. I didn't pick up any more passengers that shift. I drove aimlessly lost in thought. For the rest of that day, I could hardly talk. What if that woman had gotten an angry driver, or one who was impatient to end his shift? What if I had refused to take the run, or had honked once, then driven away?
On a quick review, I don't think that I have done anything more important in my life. We're conditioned to think that our lives revolve around great moments. But great moments often catch us unaware - beautifully wrapped in what others may consider a small one.
PEOPLE MAY NOT REMEMBER EXACTLY WHAT YOU DID, OR WHAT YOU SAID ~BUT~THEY WILL ALWAYS REMEMBER HOW YOU MADE THEM FEEL.
You won't get any big surprise by sharing this story with others, but, you might help make the world a little kinder and more compassionate by doing so. Reminding others that often it is the random acts of kindness that most benefit all of us.
Merry Christmas...
I arrived at the address and honked the horn. After waiting a few minutes, I walked to the door and knocked... 'Just a minute', answered a frail, elderly voice.
I could hear something being dragged across the floor. After a long pause, the door opened. A small woman in her 90's stood before me. She was wearing a print dress and a pillbox hat with a veil pinned on it, like somebody out of a 1940's movie. By her side was a small nylon suitcase.
The apartment looked as if no one had lived in it for years. All the furniture was covered with sheets. There were no clocks on the walls, no knickknacks or utensils on the counters. In the corner was a cardboard box filled with photos and glassware. 'Would you carry my bag out to the car?' she said.
I took the suitcase to the cab, then returned to assist the woman. She took my arm and we walked slowly toward the curb. She kept thanking me for my kindness. 'It's nothing', I told her.. 'I just try to treat my passengers the way I would want my mother treated'. 'Oh, you're such a good boy', she said.
When we got in the cab, she gave me an address and then asked, 'Could you drive through downtown?' 'It's not the shortest way,' I answered quickly.. 'Oh, I don't mind,' she said. 'I'm in no hurry. I'm on my way to a hospice'.
I looked in the rear-view mirror. Her eyes were glistening. 'I don't have any family left,' she continued in a soft voice.. 'The doctor says I don't have very long. ' I quietly reached over and shut off the meter. 'What route would you like me to take?' I asked.
For the next two hours, we drove through the city. She showed me the building where she had once worked as an elevator operator. We drove through the neighborhood where she and her husband had lived when they were newlyweds. She had me pull up in front of a furniture warehouse that had once been a ballroom where she had gone dancing as a girl.
Sometimes she'd ask me to slow in front of a particular building or corner and would sit staring into the darkness, saying nothing. As the first hint of sun was creasing the horizon, she suddenly said, 'I'm tired. Let's go now'.
We drove in silence to the address she had given me. It was a low building, like a small convalescent home, with a driveway that passed under a portico. Two orderlies came out to the cab as soon as we pulled up. They were solicitous and intent, watching her every move. They must have been expecting her. I opened the trunk and took the small suitcase to the door.
The woman was already seated in a wheelchair. 'How much do I owe you?' she asked, reaching into her purse. 'Nothing,' I said 'You have to make a living,' she answered. 'There are other passengers,' I responded. Almost without thinking, I bent and gave her a hug. She held onto me tightly. 'You gave an old woman a little moment of joy,' she said. 'Thank you.' I squeezed her hand, and then walked into the dim morning light.. Behind me, a door shut.
It was the sound of the closing of a life.. I didn't pick up any more passengers that shift. I drove aimlessly lost in thought. For the rest of that day, I could hardly talk. What if that woman had gotten an angry driver, or one who was impatient to end his shift? What if I had refused to take the run, or had honked once, then driven away?
On a quick review, I don't think that I have done anything more important in my life. We're conditioned to think that our lives revolve around great moments. But great moments often catch us unaware - beautifully wrapped in what others may consider a small one.
PEOPLE MAY NOT REMEMBER EXACTLY WHAT YOU DID, OR WHAT YOU SAID ~BUT~THEY WILL ALWAYS REMEMBER HOW YOU MADE THEM FEEL.
You won't get any big surprise by sharing this story with others, but, you might help make the world a little kinder and more compassionate by doing so. Reminding others that often it is the random acts of kindness that most benefit all of us.
Merry Christmas...
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