Those of us in the Personal Development world, working on ourselves, on a mission of living our greatest good and fulfilled life, know the value of keeping the focus on the future desire, not the current situation.
But you know, sometimes, you hit a bump in the road that not only takes your breath away, but puts you flat on the ground, face down with bricks on your back!
I have had this experience just this week and I feel a major part of keeping this in perfect perspective is to tell you about it and share where my thoughts have been. First of all, I am not sharing this information with you for any reason other than I truly feel my thoughts on this may be of help to others.
This is a situation that would have completely ended my life, not too long ago. A situation that would have ripped from me my entire reason for living...
Ten days ago, I learned my husband had cancer, then I learned it was aggressive and non-operable, non-curable stage IV Kidney cancer, that had already spread to his lungs, brain and other organs. Within 48 hours, I literally went from living on top of the World, to drowing in an ocean of fear and pain.
Wow, here I am with my focus entirely on how much fun we can have in our lives with travel, new experiences and living a life of our creation.,
And suddenly, reality that my primary focus of my life (my wonderful husband), is no longer going to be with me.
At first, I did what most loving and adoring wives do, I cried for about 24 hours. A big part of that was the knowing that my wonderful husband will not be a part of my future and of course a part of it being that He will not experience all we have planned. And, of course there was a little of "why me, why him" questions.
The first few days, he did not know what was happening. The brain tumor kept him from understanding and that was a blessing for me, since I did not have to tell him what was happening. He struggled to speak at all at this point, so basically he just kept smiling and laughing at pretty much nothing and occasionally with a great deal of difficulty asking me "Why are you so sad".
My heart was broken and I could not tell him about it. But on the evening of the 3rd day and after some heavy duty treatment to reduce brain swelling, he was able to talk and comprehend much better than before, even though tremendous effort was required. At this point, he wanted to know where he was, he could see the view was not our hometown, so I explained to him he was in a hospital 2 hours from our home and of course he wanted to know why.
He asked if he had had a stroke and my urge to not tell the truth was strong, but I decided he had to know the truth.
I carefully explained to him about his cancer, of course not going into great detail but enough for him to understand. Then it happened! My pain turned to pride and to joy for this beautiful man that I had loved for 29 years. With just a few words, he empowered me with the focus and the direction that I needed to deal with this in a way that would not only help him, but help me get to where we were headed.
This amazing gentle, loving and insightful man simply smiled and stated "Well, it is what it is and we do what we do, but YOU have a mission and this is a part of that mission."
This, to most people, will not seem very important. But he has observed my growth for so many years. He has seen me go from a highly stressed Corporate person to someone who's goal is self peace and service. He has quietly seen the change from a person who "reacted" to everything with great passion and enthusiasm (tears, anger and opinionated), to a person who sees the vision and does not stop to look at the bumps in the road.
But to me, it reminded me of the years of self development that I have gone through. It reminded me of watching the movie "The Secret" time after time to learn the power of self direction and self focus. It reminded me of all the speeches, articles, conference calls and everything else where I have stated time and again, "focus is everything, adversity is a bump that should never take your focus from your goal".
It reminded me of the many times that I said "Your greatest adversity will always come right before your greatest blessing."
In his belabored way, he was telling me this was a huge bump in the road and the years of development were simply to prepare me for this event. I understood so very much at this point. I understood the meaning of adversity, yes, but I understood so much more. I understood where I was going, for the first time in my life.
I am reminded of a quote: "Your living is determined not so much by what life brings you as by the attitude you bring to life; not so much by what happens to you as by the way your mind looks at what happens."
I know that living without Jerry is going to be my greatest challenge. But I also am extremely grateful for the time we have had together and I am standing on a miracle that I see everyday. The miracle of more time with him.
He knows my mission is to help as many people as possible to find and create their futures. He knows I want to lead thousands to freedom and self direction. But to do that, I must lead myself first. And even though I have found much of that freedom, he knows it must be My Own Freedom!
The next months, years or whatever time we have together is going to be so incredibly special. We have had wonderful times and adventures together and they have not yet ended. It is going to be a time of joy, pain, fun, challenge and so many other feelings. But it will be a time of great love and growth.
I will share as much of it as I can with you, my dear friends. And this sharing will be a part of my mission.
My focus is so much different now. I know my purpose is to make him as happy and as comfortable as possible, but it is so much more. Not only must I carry on with my goals and my mission of helping others find their personal and financial freedom, but to carry an attitude that empowers others to face adversity and find themselves in spite of it and because of it.
In love and to your unstoppable success...
WE HAVE MOVED!!!
1/18/2009
Five Steps to Accomplishing Great Goals
All great accomplishments in history began with the imagination. The imagination is the single most powerful tool we have in our mental and physical arsenals. Nothing is by circumstance, you accomplish what you actively and creatively see in your mind's eye first.
People often ask me what the most important thing they can do to assure they reach their goals is, and I ALWAYS answer "just Imagine it". Call it visualization or imagination, it is all the same. But nothing great ever happened without it first being seen in the imagination.
So how do you use your imagination to create something phenomenal? And yes, anyone can do great and phenomenal things. It may be in sports, finances, art, or in relationships, but until it is imagined, it is never accomplished.
Here is a simple 5 step process to use. Take out pen and paper and go through these simple steps:
1) Ask yourself; "What do I really want to do?"
Write the question down and think about it in detail. Do not think about what you have done in the past. The past has nothing to do with your future. What do you really want to do?
2) Assign a time line
Once again, do not think of the past, and especially, do not think about the "How". Think only about what you really want and when you want it. It should be within 1, 3 or 5 years, or may even be as early as next month, but make sure you put a time line to it.
3) Write a detailed description of doing this thing.
Spend some time using your imagination and write out what you want. But here is the "key", it must be in present tense. I have or I am are necessary. Be very specific. Use your imagination and create every bit of detail surrounding your desire. I like to refer to it as "my perfect day", with this "thing" being the centerpiece of your perfect day.
4) Why do you want it?
Get clear on this. You must have a powerful why. Sometimes, you will find in this step that you really do not want the thing you have imagined and something else comes up as more important. If this happens, start from the beginning again.
5) Apply the power of Gratitude.
Beginning immediately, everyday until your goal is achieved, be grateful for it. Spend some time each day being grateful for everything you currently have and for the goal you are working toward. Your gratitude must be in present tense. I am so happy and grateful now that I .......
This may seem to be a very simplistic approach, but it is a very powerful one. Anything your imagination can see, you can achieve. But the achievement of things comes through faith and belief. Believe that your intention is yours. The fact that you have put time and emotion into creating your intent, makes it a very powerful force. So just believe. When you can believe, you can and will receive.
To your unstoppable success...
People often ask me what the most important thing they can do to assure they reach their goals is, and I ALWAYS answer "just Imagine it". Call it visualization or imagination, it is all the same. But nothing great ever happened without it first being seen in the imagination.
So how do you use your imagination to create something phenomenal? And yes, anyone can do great and phenomenal things. It may be in sports, finances, art, or in relationships, but until it is imagined, it is never accomplished.
Here is a simple 5 step process to use. Take out pen and paper and go through these simple steps:
1) Ask yourself; "What do I really want to do?"
Write the question down and think about it in detail. Do not think about what you have done in the past. The past has nothing to do with your future. What do you really want to do?
2) Assign a time line
Once again, do not think of the past, and especially, do not think about the "How". Think only about what you really want and when you want it. It should be within 1, 3 or 5 years, or may even be as early as next month, but make sure you put a time line to it.
3) Write a detailed description of doing this thing.
Spend some time using your imagination and write out what you want. But here is the "key", it must be in present tense. I have or I am are necessary. Be very specific. Use your imagination and create every bit of detail surrounding your desire. I like to refer to it as "my perfect day", with this "thing" being the centerpiece of your perfect day.
4) Why do you want it?
Get clear on this. You must have a powerful why. Sometimes, you will find in this step that you really do not want the thing you have imagined and something else comes up as more important. If this happens, start from the beginning again.
5) Apply the power of Gratitude.
Beginning immediately, everyday until your goal is achieved, be grateful for it. Spend some time each day being grateful for everything you currently have and for the goal you are working toward. Your gratitude must be in present tense. I am so happy and grateful now that I .......
This may seem to be a very simplistic approach, but it is a very powerful one. Anything your imagination can see, you can achieve. But the achievement of things comes through faith and belief. Believe that your intention is yours. The fact that you have put time and emotion into creating your intent, makes it a very powerful force. So just believe. When you can believe, you can and will receive.
To your unstoppable success...
1/14/2009
Are You In the 3%'ers?
It is a known and proven fact, that about 3% of the population makes 95% of the money! How could this be? In the most prosperous country in the world, could it be that so few are immensely wealthy?
Some might say these people are lucky, in the right place at the right time, knew the right people, inherited it, stole it, or in some way were less than honest in the way they came about their riches, but that is NOT my answer.
I think it is much more than coincidental that you also have only about 3% of the population who are willing to take action to have what they truly desire. When it comes to success and financial Independence, the numbers are staggering in every area.
For example:
How many people write down their goals
How many people meditate and visualize
How many people believe it is better to work smart than hard
How many people expect nothing but good things to happen
How many people read daily
How many people are grateful everyday for what they have
How many people give more than 10% consistently
How many people are big thinkers
How many people know that there is endless abundance in this world
How many people know what prosperity consciousness is
and on and on and on....
When it comes to people who make a lot of money, creating financial independence for themselves, you will normally find they each participate in these activities daily. These are traits of people who are highly successful.
And, these are all traits that can be learned, but only people who choose to learn them and apply them in their lives.
I teach people how to make money. I have worked with many who had none of these traits, but in time, were able to understand them and apply them with ease. Yes, they can easily be learned, but only by those who choose to. And the amazing thing, when you start applying these into your daily routine, your results change dramatically.
So I encourage you to delve into these concepts and ways of thinking. The doing of any business is the easiest part. It is the work that must be done on oneself that is sometimes the challenging part.
And, if you would like to learn how to make multiple 6 figures within the next year, let me know... I can show you how.
To your unstoppable success...
Some might say these people are lucky, in the right place at the right time, knew the right people, inherited it, stole it, or in some way were less than honest in the way they came about their riches, but that is NOT my answer.
I think it is much more than coincidental that you also have only about 3% of the population who are willing to take action to have what they truly desire. When it comes to success and financial Independence, the numbers are staggering in every area.
For example:
How many people write down their goals
How many people meditate and visualize
How many people believe it is better to work smart than hard
How many people expect nothing but good things to happen
How many people read daily
How many people are grateful everyday for what they have
How many people give more than 10% consistently
How many people are big thinkers
How many people know that there is endless abundance in this world
How many people know what prosperity consciousness is
and on and on and on....
When it comes to people who make a lot of money, creating financial independence for themselves, you will normally find they each participate in these activities daily. These are traits of people who are highly successful.
And, these are all traits that can be learned, but only people who choose to learn them and apply them in their lives.
I teach people how to make money. I have worked with many who had none of these traits, but in time, were able to understand them and apply them with ease. Yes, they can easily be learned, but only by those who choose to. And the amazing thing, when you start applying these into your daily routine, your results change dramatically.
So I encourage you to delve into these concepts and ways of thinking. The doing of any business is the easiest part. It is the work that must be done on oneself that is sometimes the challenging part.
And, if you would like to learn how to make multiple 6 figures within the next year, let me know... I can show you how.
To your unstoppable success...
1/05/2009
A Little Thing Affecting Many Lives
It was about a week before Christmas, when I was on a teleconference with some of the people who I mastermind with on occassion. We were talking about the Movie "The Secret" and what a hidden jewel it is. The discussion lead to one thing after another and before you know it, I asked "I wonder what would happen to someone if they watched The Secret everyday for 30 days".
Before the call was over, we had put together "The Secret Challenge". A Challenge to anyone who wanted to participate and challenge themselves to do something to test themselves, but to also empower themselves at an unmeasurable level.
We started the challenge on January 1, 2009 with about 150 participants. Here it is Jan 5 and that number has grown to close to 300.
Find out for yourself what can happen in your life if you focus 30 days to achieve your ultimate lifestyle. I invite anyone who would like to, to join us in this challenge. It is life changing!
To your unstoppable success...
Before the call was over, we had put together "The Secret Challenge". A Challenge to anyone who wanted to participate and challenge themselves to do something to test themselves, but to also empower themselves at an unmeasurable level.
We started the challenge on January 1, 2009 with about 150 participants. Here it is Jan 5 and that number has grown to close to 300.
Find out for yourself what can happen in your life if you focus 30 days to achieve your ultimate lifestyle. I invite anyone who would like to, to join us in this challenge. It is life changing!
To your unstoppable success...
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